Lying is a taboo for many people. We are fed up with the idea that you cannot lie. However, when it comes to the point, there are many situations where a “white lie” is needed to keep the peace or maintain friendships. “No, of course your hair looks good today!”.
The proverb “lies have no legs” indicates that liars are usually discovered sooner or later, and therefore the truth is better told right away than later. However, although the morale of the proverb has some, the practice is different. Many little everyday lies never come to light (“I’m a little late because there was a traffic jam on the A2”). Especially if someone can lie as a lawyer (that’s another proverb, incidentally, not necessarily an attack on the profession).
But some lies are of a more serious nature. For example, there are countless scammers in this world who abuse their lying ability and the credulity of others to make a profit for themselves, often at the expense of others. How do you, as an innocent victim, find out whether someone is lying to you or not. Simply asking would be the easiest, of course, but if someone has lied about one thing, why not the lie itself? So there must be other ways to recognize lies for what they are. Here we give ten ways that can help you with this. There is no real ranking in it, so we describe the verbal (spoken) signals first and then the more difficult non-verbal signs.
10. Selective Wording
If you ask a liar a direct question, he can try to talk about it. The liar does not want to tell a real lie, so to speak, and therefore decides not to give a direct answer to the question instead. For example, the question “What do you think of my new look?” Is answered, “Yes, I heard that fur is back in fashion this season.”
So the liar doesn’t really have to tell a lie (maybe he did hear from someone) or at least tell a less relevant lie. The truth might be much more brutal: “I hate that fur look.”